Friday, August 23, 2013

Random Thoughts on 'My (Ms. Walter's) Affair With Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA' (Alleged)


I must start by saying this is not a response to Ms. Walter’s exposé of her short-lived affair with Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of COZA. It is more of a commentary. What follows is a collection of random thoughts and beliefs, some of which I have held for years – and have now decided to share. You will find that not all of them are directly correlated to the situation Ms. Walter describes.

Let’s go:

1.    At their very best, Pastors are only MEN of God. There is no simpler way to convey this truth. Your Pastor, no matter how holy he behaves and how many times a day he says “God bless you”, is only a man. His ‘Pastoral calling’ does not grant him immunity to the temptations and fallings that befall other men. Guys, even Jesus was a man! (I Tim. 2: 5). He grew hungry, thirsty, and was equally tempted by the devil!

2.    We are ALL the anointed of God. The verse which says in part “…touch not my anointed, and do my Prophets no harm” is often quoted out of context. A while back I was reading about a Pastor who sexually molested a 2-year old, and someone in the comments section was taking everyone else to the cleaners – arguing that they were “touching God’s anointed”. Chimo! If you would make time to read I Chron. 16: 16-22, you would see that the phrase “my anointed” referred to the people of Israel! All of them, and now ALL OF US!

3.    It is okay to correct church leaders when they slip up. Yes! I said that, and I’ll say it again. Church leaders sometimes make mistakes, and it is totally okay to correct them – so long as it is done in love. Do you guys remember Peter? Remember how he became de-facto head of the church after Jesus’s ascension to heaven? Okay. Now do you remember Paul? Remember how he was travelling around persecuting Christians while Peter’s shadow was healing the sick (Acts 5: 12-16)? It might interest you to know that Paul corrected Peter “to his face” in Antioch “because he (Peter) was clearly in the wrong”. (Gal. 2: 11-21, NIV). It might also interest you to know Jesus regularly corrected the Pharisees and Sadducees (leaders of the religious institution of the time) in public.

4.    A man who does not answer to any higher authority is a disaster waiting to happen. When female friends tell me they are planning to marry someone, I often ask them if the someone has mentors or people they hold in high esteem. (Males rarely call to ‘announce’). Times come when men make mistakes (some of them honest and sincere), and their families may need to ask for outside help as a last resort. Woe betide her who marries a man without mentors/role models/father figures in his life. No man is reasonable 100% of the time. Accountability is important! Very important!

5.    If you ever need to ‘report’ your Pastor, ‘report’ him to his mentor – not to his protégés. In I. Peter 5: 5, young men are exhorted to submit to those who are older. Spiritual authority is taken very seriously amongst Pastors and their protégés, and it is foolhardy to expect a protégé to correct his ‘Senior Pastor’. If you ever run into an issue with your Pastor that needs to be discussed with a third party – find his mentor; not a subordinate!

6.    We need to help our Pastors, not worship them! I have been to churches where members fawned over their pastors, seeming to worship the ground they walked on. Kai! That is idolatry o! We should respect our Pastors and leaders, but NOT WORSHIP THEM! I have heard testimonies where people gave thanks to “Papa”, blessed “Papa” for interpreting their dreams and praying for them, and asked the congregation to rise and clap their hands for “Papa”. Ewe! Guys!! What is the place of God in all that when you ascribe all the glory to “Papa”?

Pastors and leaders need help o! My one year as General Secretary of OAU’s University Joint Christian Mission (UJCM) was one of my toughest! Believe me when I say I experienced temptation in a new dimension entirely – and ask Busola or P Soj for details if you don’t. I could only wonder what people like Pastors Olumide and Kolapo, and fine-boy Pastors like Ayotunde Ilesanmi of CASOR were facing on a daily basis.

If Pastor asks you to come to the hotel, do him a favor and DON’T GO! If he asks you to sit on his laps, kick off your shoes and run!! If he asks you to wait behind after two or three consecutive services for extra counselling, tell him you prefer to speak to his wife!!! Help Pastor!!!

7.    You MUST know God for yourself! This is the most important of all these thoughts, and I have saved it for last. One of the greatest things that happened to Christianity was the ‘democratization’ of the Bible. Read your Bible, and get to know YOUR God for YOURself! When we stand before God, we will all stand by ourselves for ourselves! There will be no singing and dancing “awa egbe SCM, aa de!” No! Pastor will not be able to say something in your defense on that day!

A number of ‘commenters’ on Ms. Walter’s post have asked her to take it down because it might hurt other people’s belief in God. Frankly, this is balderdash. I understand that we hold some men in higher esteem than others, but if your belief in God can be hurt by your Pastors shortcomings, then maybe you need to lose this ‘belief’ and rediscover God for yourself.

Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you!

PS:
Please feel free to disagree with any of the thoughts/beliefs expressed in this post. Use the comments section below so that we can all learn and grow as iron sharpens iron. Thanks!
In the event that Ms. Walter’s side of the story is the true one, I am very happy for her. She seems to have found healing, and that is a good thing.
This was written in a hurry. Please alert me if you find any typos or errors.

38 comments:

  1. Koye! You just seem to have that uncanny gift of putting into words the exact thoughts of minds so many, the least of which is mine. Great words there. I agree totally

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    1. Thank you, Muyiwa. Surely I am privileged to speak for so many :)

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    1. Hehehehehehe Olorungemstone. What's popping ma'am?

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  3. "Pastors and leaders need help o! My one year as General Secretary (I was not even a Pastor o) of OAU’s University Joint Christian Mission (UJCM) was one of my toughest! Believe me when I say I experienced temptation in a new dimension entirely – and ask Busola or P Soj for details if you don’t. I could only wonder what people like Pastors Olumide and Kolapo, and fine-boy Pastors like Ayotunde Ilesanmi of CASOR were facing on a daily basis.

    If Pastor asks you to come to the hotel, do him a favor and DON’T GO! If he asks you to sit on his laps, kick off your shoes and run!! If he asks you to wait behind after two or three consecutive services for extra counselling, tell him you prefer to speak to his wife!!! Help Pastor!!!"

    I love this Koye! Nice one there, I hope it goes viral sha, people's understanding needs to be opened to some of these thruth!

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    1. Thanks, Oludamilare. I'm hoping it goes viral too :)

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  4. God bless you more...

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  5. While I agree with ur points of view, I am always confused about this excuse people make for 'men of God' about being human. This is what I know about being a christian, granted I am human and not above sin but the spirit of God in me helps me to a large extent to avoid sin. Now sex is not a case of where u mistakenly found urself on top of the woman, it however follows a process of conceiving the thought and doing things incidental to the act. At what point is a man of God to know or rather be admonished by the spirit of God in him to stay away and let his fault be that he thought of immorality and didn't actualize it. Which brings me to the question, is standing and still preaching to a congregation not pure hypocrisy? Well no man knows it all. Only God does

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    1. Yes, anon. I am equally tired of people making excuses for Pastors, saying they are men of God. However, people tend to hold Pastors and Teachers to higher standards. In James 3: 1, they were forewarned and told they would receive 'higher' levels of critical judgement.

      My point here is people should stop setting themselves up for disappointment by 'believing' in their Pastors. Pastors are NOT the way to God, they only serve to point the way. Every man should find God for himself. :)

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  6. My guy...kudos for the tips here. I am taking your rights to use THESE 7 TIPS on my facebook wall, OluBaba Mascot(I've reported myself). Ofcourse I go mention say na you write, wetin be my own? Kini n o f'ole se laye ti mo wa? Then please add yourself to me o, so that if arrows dey fly, you go join me quench them o. Abi OYO for me? Well done for the tips again. It will help all of us to keep safe and holy.

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    1. Loooooool. Olubabamascot, I have found you on facebook ;). Feel free sir!

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  7. Koye,you have said it all

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  8. Hmnn Koye, May the Lord bless you plenty and help the Church of Christ,the 'Nigerian Church' especially.The excessive grip a lot of pastors have over their flock cannot be overlooked. These pastors are just humans whom God had commissioned to herald his good news but unfortunately are feared,respected, adored and worshipped even more than our Lord JESUS Christ. How on earth will your Pastor ask you to come to his hotel room, sit on his laps and kiss him etc, and you conceded, na to run for dear life and then preach salvation to the pastor later o. After all Joseph ran for dear life in the same or even more precarious situation. Pastor or no Pastor, even my 8years old niece knows sitting on any male's laps, whether Daddy or Granpa na danger, signals,let alone a full grown woman.Congregants have now turned their Pastors into some sort of ‘Babalawo’ who cannot be questioned and whose words are final.It is not unscriptural for anointed men of God to be rebuked when they stray away from the word of God as i believe the anointed of the Lord is not only restricted to the clergy but to all who have accepted JESUS Christ as their Lord and personal saviour. I John 2: 20.
    Believers should strive to independently search the scriptures to ensure that their pastor’s teachings are in tune with the Bible. Believers should also feel free to discuss any issue regarding a misaligned teaching or message with their pastors without the fear of being victimized or tagged confrontational (However all these should be done timely before events overtake things). Believers should be confident enough to approach God directly through JESUS and not let their Pastors be their toll gate to God.Hebrew 4:16 They should believe and trust the reconciliatory power in the Blood of Jesus as i believe access to God is not a monopoly of any pastor on earth. Plus these pastors are also humans and when you talk about occupational hazards, trust me they are exposed to a whole lot, which is why I admonish everyone to try to pray for these men of God as much as we can. May GOD help ME, help YOU and help us ALL.

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    1. Oh wow! Thanks Dari. If I knew how to contact you, I would ask you to do a follow-up post :)

      "The excessive grip a lot of pastors have over their flock cannot be overlooked. These pastors are just humans whom God had commissioned to herald his good news but unfortunately are feared,respected, adored and worshipped even more than our Lord JESUS Christ."

      "Believers should strive to independently search the scriptures to ensure that their pastor’s teachings are in tune with the Bible."

      "Believers should be confident enough to approach God directly through JESUS and not let their Pastors be their toll gate to God."

      "Plus these pastors are also humans and when you talk about occupational hazards, trust me they are exposed to a whole lot, which is why I admonish everyone to try to pray for these men of God as much as we can."

      Gbam! Very well said, Dari. Thank you!

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  9. A flashback into my life, we were asked to fast in Church which i had started.Now some 2 or 3 hours to the end of the fast i saw a couple of ministers and highly placed people in church eating. So i said 'I cannot kill myself jare, sebi na ministers and the spirikoko for church dey eat so,make i break my fast jare. Lol.

    God did tell me 'if you like break your fast ,but know that your salvation and your relationship with me is personal and not collective'. Fear catch me o, i sealed my lips with superglue ni o, till the end of the fast when we were allowed to break our fast. The Moral of the story is 'Salvation is soooo personal' He who has an ear let him hear o

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    1. Oh wow! You won't believe I had the exact same experience back in Ife!

      We were at a retreat, and I chanced on the Prayer Leader filling munching on snacks from Biggs well before the fast was due to be broken. She later came onto the pulpit, and of course - she had the energy to jump around while the rest of us knelt by our chairs.

      The next day, I left the Retreat grounds at about noon (six hours to when we were due to break) and sat down to a large meal at a nearby Restaurant. As I started to take the first spoon, I just knew I was wrong - as this was about MY fast, and not her example.

      Salvation is personal ooo!

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  10. Osunbade Adebola24 August 2013 at 06:26

    ℓ̊ agree totally with u and a Big Amen to that.

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  11. Sound doctrine. Couldn't have articulated it better. God bless you brother. I'm blessed by this piece.

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  12. God bless you, thanks for this post

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  13. I appreciate this post of yours. Cuts right to the heart of the matter. I have never seen the need to worship my pastor or deify him. He is only a man. Christians should stop getting distracted and focus on the Way. Christ is the Way not your pastor. I wonder when this trend started.

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  14. Ăyøwie George Ikhuenbor24 August 2013 at 09:46

    Nice one bro.I have posted it on my facebook wall.

    Ăyøwie George Ikhuenbor

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  15. Nice one, and I totally agree with everything you said. Its so unfortunate, this whole ese & p.biodun saga. If it's true, then I hail her courage in coming out. But if it's false...well, God is able to pass judgement. God bless you bro.

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  16. You have really spoken the minds of many, Koye. Dari,thank you very much for your contributions. I'm so glad to read the comments on this blog as opposed to those on many other blogs.
    You guys have said it all! GOD bless us all and grant us a fresh understanding of Him everyday.

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  17. You've hit the nail on the head. I agree all the way.

    Good job sir!

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  18. In the words of Shakespeare, a Daniel has come to Judgement ...God bless and preserve u.

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  19. Nice one Koye, I'm exceptionally passionate about #7. I believe this is the biggest issue in today's Church, may God help us!

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  20. Very Apt words! I usually don't comment on blogs, I couldn't resist doing on this one. In fact I had to click two links to get here. This is the most mature comment or thoughts(if u like) I have seen written on the Ese/Biodun matter. I wld like to post it on everywhere 'postable', I hope that's allowed

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  21. THIS IS IT! ON POINT!! GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL!!!

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  22. i totally agree with your views, see we the soo call born again or christian have failed to do our responsibility. we have often fail to study to show ours elf approve unto God, we have failed by allowing people to despite our youth. We are lazy in the things of the spirit. we have not take charge of our life enough. koye, i often say it, the day Nigeria nation will be half good in terms of living condition as other developed nations of the world his, the church may be empty, we want quick fix to our problem by anointing.
    we dont want to work out our salvation with fear and trembling.
    May God heal all of us.

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  23. More grease to ur elbow Koye, l totally agree wit ur beautiful write up. Amen to dat prayer

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  24. I wish I could 'like' all your comments individually, but Blogger doesn't have a 'like' feature - so I have to make do with "Thank You".

    May His light continue to shine through us.

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  25. Discover God for urself...thats the best advice anyone has given in this matter...thanks for that...
    i always tell folks that the spirit that lives in man of God lives in them.. God didnt give us a half dose and them a full dose. "Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God"...John 1:12...
    The best decision i ever made was as u said.. i discovered Him by myself.. No one, not the MoG, papa, bishop, Pope and all other name they come with, can pull d wool over my eyes... all i owe them is respect, the worship part belongs to my Father in heaven
    God bless u ..have a happy sunday

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  26. Nice one... well said. we need to know God personally...

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  27. Well done, Khoyemi. You always make me proud. Depths of wisdom will not cease to ooze out through your hands, pen and lips in Jesus name. Amen. From Tinuke.

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  28. Toooooo onpoint!

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  29. Good one Koye, I actually saw the link to this post on another blog from another Social media site. Great work you are doing. I totally agree with all your points especially the one that says we should help our pastors and realising they are men too.
    Keep it up and may your ink never run dry.

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